But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapistto help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous.
When it comes to having good sex, every woman has discussed the infamous G-spot. Some people think it's a myth and get by on clitoral orgasms which ain't too shabby. But ardent believers in the lore of the G-spot spend countless, amazing hours searching for this spongy, walnut patch on the front of the vaginal wall.
Yeah, that basically sums up your clit. In other words, clit stimulation is a must when it comes to mind-blowing sex. But given that your clitoral glans—that nub you can see on the outside, which contain the most nerve endings in the clit, 8, to be exact—can be anywhere from 2.
Anytime you find yourself on the verge of complaining about PMS and childbirth, both of which are hell on earth, consider this: Women are magical unicorns who can orgasm in a lot more ways than one. Contrary to what you might have been told for decades, the clitoris — though capable of providing the granddaddy of all orgasms — isn't the be-all and end-all of pleasure. Here's what you need to know about six of the other ways you can get off — because, hey, orgasming is good for you.
Instead, I went out and got myself a lengthy jelly dong. It was shiny, purple, and veiny. The dildo was comically longer than I needed—at least nine inches in length and two inches in girth—but it would do.
There are certain positions every woman has in her arsenal that are guaranteed to make her orgasm. Knowing what works for you is a sure-fire way to make sure you reach your peak. After all, orgasms are no easy feat.
Orgasms can help reduce stress, improve your skin, and make you feel, well, great. However, for many women, orgasms — especially those achieved through penetration — can be just as elusive as the mysterious G spot. In fact, according to a study, only about 18 percent of women achieve orgasm through penetration alone — meaning no hands, mouth, or toys needed.
There are certain positions every woman has in her arsenal that are guaranteed to make her orgasm. Knowing what works for you is a sure-fire way to make sure you reach your peak. After all, orgasms are no easy feat. Only 25 percent of women orgasm during intercourse penetration alone.
When a certain sex position feels amazing, it's safe to assume that it's hitting either your G-spot or your clitoris. But what about positions that—wait for it—stimulate both hot spots at the same time? Yes, those magical unicorn positions do exist and they're bound to result in a mind-blowing orgasm.
The Coital Alignment Technique CAT is a variation of missionary that directly stimulates the clitorisgiving this traditionally bland position a big boost of pleasure. Women only have a few nerve endings in their vaginasand usually they are located within the first two inches. Imagine how much more child birth would hurt if the vagina was jam-packed with feeling! But, with positions designed specifically for clitoral stimulation, sex becomes an orgasmic treat rather than just going through the motions.