If you took sex ed at school, you probably learned all about pregnancy and STIsbut there's a pretty good chance that your teacher never once uttered the word "orgasm. So let's actually talk about orgasms for a sec. An orgasm is what happens when a person reaches the height of sexual excitement.
A little hand or mouth on his penis, a little in and out, and then boom! And gaining a better understanding of the male orgasm and how it works might just do wonders for your sex life and your relationship. Trust me, your guy will appreciate the effort.
One of the most important things they never teach us in sex ed is that our bodies can feel pleasure, and that is actually very important. As it turns out, not every body feels pleasure the same way. It's also important to note that not everyone is neurotypical, so on top of all the other ways we vary, all our nervous systems don't work in exactly the same way.
Alas, of course, there are women on the Internet who have tried and they have taken to THIS Reddit thread to share their experience of orgasm. And then, when the suspense finally breaks when the bad guy jumps out of the closet or whatever and there is that feeling or tingles and relief. It's kinda like that. But really sexy.
I would describe it as something that washes over my entire body. Almost like chills throughout, but my body is heating up instead. The other analogy and more how I feel emotionally, so deeply connected, as if a river of consciousness connects me to him in the present moment.
The female orgasm is the holy grail of sexual experience. It spreads in waves and reaches the extent of my full body as it increases in intensity. It is like an earthquake of pleasure that fills my body with the best energy ever, and slowly dissipates and leaves me drained and happy.
The first time you experience an orgasm feels a lot like you just discovered how to climb Mount Everest but, like, without actually hiking the whole thing, and maybe you found a serious shortcut after trying multiple routes too. Here, 28 real women describe what their climax feels like in their own words, but TL;DR: When you know, you just know. The anticipation and buildup ends, so you just feel a smooth release.
The female orgasm is generally regarded as a magical, mysterious thing. It relies on all kinds of intriguing bits like the G spot and the clitoris. We asked a bunch of women to describe what exactly an orgasm feels like for them. Here are their answers — some names have been changed as not everyone wants to publicly talk about cumming.
But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapistto help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous.